You Don’t Struggle With Decisions—You Struggle With Certainty
You’re not bad at making decisions.
You’re just waiting for certainty.
The right answer.
The perfect choice.
The path with zero risk.
But here’s the truth:
There is no “right” decision.
You can’t predict the future.
You don’t control the outcome.
You won’t know how things play out until you live them.
And yet, we exhaust ourselves trying to find certainty where certainty doesn’t exist.
The Illusion of the “Right” Choice
We act like decisions are multiple-choice questions with one correct answer.
A fork in the road where one path leads to success and the other leads to disaster.
We believe if we just analyze things enough, think through every possible outcome, and get enough opinions, we’ll land on the right one.
But that’s not how life works.
There is no perfect choice.
Every path comes with unknowns. Every option has trade-offs. Every decision requires a leap.
The only way to know if a decision was the “right” one is to make it and see.
Which means the only real mistake is doing nothing at all.
What’s Actually Keeping You Stuck?
Not a lack of information.
Not an inability to choose.
But a fear of getting it wrong.
If you pick the wrong career, does that mean you’ve failed?
If you leave a relationship and regret it, does that mean you ruined your life?
If you take a risk and fall flat, does that mean you were never capable to begin with?
No.
It means you made the best choice you could with the information you had.
And now?
You get to make another choice.
How I Learned That the “Right” Decision Doesn’t Exist
For years, I was obsessed with making the “right” choices.
I would spend weeks—or sometimes months—agonizing over decisions, terrified of making the wrong move.
Every choice felt like it had permanent consequences.
If I chose the wrong job, I’d be miserable forever.
If I made the wrong relationship decision, I’d ruin my life.
If I pursued the wrong goal, I’d waste years.
I thought if I analyzed things enough, I’d eventually land on the right decision. The one that wouldn’t ruin my life.
But what actually happened?
I just stayed stuck, which ironically, was ruining my life.
And the moment I realized there was no certainty to wait for was the moment I actually started moving forward. In fact, I stopped believing in the idea that my life could be ruined.
Because every decision—good or bad—gives you the most valuable thing you can have:
Information.
What If There’s No Right Choice—Just a Series of Steps?
Most people approach decisions like they’re standing at a locked door.
If they choose the wrong key, they’re doomed.
But what if life isn’t a locked door?
What if it’s an open field?
What if, instead of one single right path, there were infinite ways forward?
What if your next choice didn’t need to be the decision that changes everything, but just the next step that gives you more information?
That’s how life actually works.
You make the best decision you can with the information you have.
Then, you take action.
You see what happens.
You use what you learn to make your next decision.
That’s it.
The only way forward is through.
How to Make Decisions Without Overthinking
If you’re waiting for certainty, stop.
Instead, ask yourself:
“What decision would I feel proud to make regardless of the outcome?”
Because that?
That’s the only thing you actually control.
Not the result.
Not how other people react.
Not whether it goes perfectly.
Just the simple act of showing up for your life in a way that feels aligned.
And here’s the best part:
You’re allowed to change your mind.
You’re allowed to take a path and realize it’s not for you.
You’re allowed to pivot, adjust, and try something new.
You’re allowed to figure it out as you go.
Life Isn’t a Test—It’s a Discovery
Most of us grew up thinking life was a series of right or wrong answers.
But it’s not.
It’s a series of experiments.
A constant unfolding of what works, what doesn’t, and what moves you closer to the life you want to live.
The people who move forward aren’t the ones who make perfect choices.
They’re the ones who make a choice and learn from it.
And when you stop trying to “get it right” and start letting yourself figure it out—
Life stops feeling like a test.
It starts feeling like a discovery.
